Times do appear to be changing, though, as studies are showing that fewer empty nesters are feeling the doom and gloom during what can be a very exciting time in their lives and the lives of their children.  This natural "growing up" process repeats itself in homes all over the world each day. Children start exploring the world and identify the path they want to go down as life outside the nest begins.  My husband and I are two years away from having our nest totally empty. With my son being 16, working and going to school, I am going through emotions that are positive. He can cook his own meals, transport himself, do his own laundry, and do his own banking, which makes my life so much easier. Many times I stay out later, because I do not have to rush home to take care of children.  I also get extra time to meet my husband for dinner, a movie, or we may even get to enjoy each other at our favorite coffee house. It is fun to let our hair down around the house without children around. We don't have to check our watches all the time for a neighborhood car pool or rush one of the children to a dental appointment. To me, it is a joy to spend time with the children as adults. Plus, I like not having their messes, or laundry piled! No more nagging. The children are adults on their own! 

More and more parents are looking forward to having time to do the things they always wanted to do once the children were grown. Traveling, taking up a new sport or hobby, or just being quiet on a lazy afternoon make the list of things to do. Having an empty nest means it is your time now to do the things you have always wanted to do. Many boomers have married young, and dealt with the responsibility of raising a family. It is your time now to give to yourself. My advice is to do all the things you have always wanted to do but never had the time to do raising a family. If you are feeling sad, like you have lost your purpose maybe it is time to go out and volunteer your time to a worthy cause. You are more dimensional than just raising children. So many organizations need help and without volunteers they could not help as many people. Volunteering is a great way to transition through feelings of an empty nest. If you can't shake your empty nest feelings, you may have to seek medical advice to help you through it. Educating yourself is your best defense.

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